I watched a video that went viral about a man who hit his wife in an elevator. In front of their 2 young children. And my feeling..... angry, disgusted, horror, pity, sad....
How could a man, who suppose to protect his woman and children did such thing? Marah? Yes. Semua orang ada perasaan marah. Tapi semua manusia juga dikurniakan akal. Which need to be used in this situation.
Ke mana hilangnya rasa kasih dan sayang? Di mana hilang rasa hormat sesama insan.
And I wonder....
What drove a man to do such act....
What make a woman still hold on to a painful relationship......
I know a few people who are in this kind of relationship.
HE said SHE provoked him
So, does she deserve it?
HE said SORRY after that. Kiss and make up
and IT HAPPEN AGAIN
and SORRY again
and IT HAPPEN AGAIN!
Is this LOVE?
or BETRAYAL?
SHE said "I'm holding on for the sake of the children"
REALLY??????
It is good for them to see their mother being abused by their father?
Is it FOR THE SAKE OF THE CHILDREN?
or
YOU CANNOT LIVE WITHOUT HIM?
Battered wife syndrome?
But its always easier said than done.
Kita hanya melihat dan bersimpati.
Mereka yang merasa dan melalui
Hanya mereka yang tahu. Semoga mereka diberi kekuatan dan perlindungan olehNYA.
Thursday, 15 August 2013
Wednesday, 24 July 2013
Of Impulsive Shopping
"Impulsive shopper" should be my middle name. And I can really shop. If I were to list down what I bought this week, be it grocery item which I think I may need to le crussuet pot, scafts, raya cookies.... the list seems endless.
My store is full with stuffs that I don't need! Some of which I never use. My fridge is so full that if the government was to declare an emergency tomorrow, I would have a food stock enough to last for a month. I wish my bank account is of similar condition which of course sadly it is not.
I really need to enrol into shopping anonymous soon.... HELP!!!!!!!!
My store is full with stuffs that I don't need! Some of which I never use. My fridge is so full that if the government was to declare an emergency tomorrow, I would have a food stock enough to last for a month. I wish my bank account is of similar condition which of course sadly it is not.
I really need to enrol into shopping anonymous soon.... HELP!!!!!!!!
Friday, 19 July 2013
10 Ramadhan 1434H = 19 July 2013
Dah 10 ramadhan. This is the first ramadhan without Miss A around. Last year she had an operation and was at home the whole fasting month.
It does feel different without her around. Sometimes I feel kesian kat dia. Kena berjauhan dengan all of us to study. Do we really need to do this? That question keep popping in my head. People said its for her own good but I know she can do well at home as well so why bother to stay in a boarding school?
I called her everyday asking what she had for iftar, what she had for sahur. The school set up a few stalls selling food stuffs inside the school compound. We gave her extra pocket money so she can buy whatever she want at the stalls.
So, there are just 3 of us at home. Me, Encik ID and Miss M.
Miss M is her usual self. Chirpy as ever even at 4.45am during sahur.
Another record I made this year's Ramadhan is..... we only went to Pasar Ramadhan once. In these 10 days!!!!! We usually had light meal for iftar. Roti jala.... mee goreng etc. I leave the office early and can reach home by 5.30pm everyday. Ample time to cook. So what we had for iftar so far?
Day 1 - Popiah goreng and claypot chicken rice
Day 2 - Roti jala and kari daging
Day 3 - Nasi lemak and ayam goreng rempah - Miss A came back for the weekend.
Day 4 - Soto ayam and puding jagung (since its weekend and mama came over for iftar)
Day 5 - Nasi tomato with ayam masak merah - for Miss A to bring back
Day 6 - Bubur lambuk and some food from Pasar Ramadhan for Miss M. Encik ID had iftar at his office
Day 7 - Mee goreng basah
Day 8 - Lontong with rendang daging
Day 9 - Mee rebus - tried a new recipe and its not that nice :-( and tahu sumbat udang
and today... tak tahu lagi apa nak masak.
I think not bad for a working mum..!
Till then... Selamat beribadah dibulan yang penuh berkat ini.
It does feel different without her around. Sometimes I feel kesian kat dia. Kena berjauhan dengan all of us to study. Do we really need to do this? That question keep popping in my head. People said its for her own good but I know she can do well at home as well so why bother to stay in a boarding school?
I called her everyday asking what she had for iftar, what she had for sahur. The school set up a few stalls selling food stuffs inside the school compound. We gave her extra pocket money so she can buy whatever she want at the stalls.
So, there are just 3 of us at home. Me, Encik ID and Miss M.
Miss M is her usual self. Chirpy as ever even at 4.45am during sahur.
Another record I made this year's Ramadhan is..... we only went to Pasar Ramadhan once. In these 10 days!!!!! We usually had light meal for iftar. Roti jala.... mee goreng etc. I leave the office early and can reach home by 5.30pm everyday. Ample time to cook. So what we had for iftar so far?
Day 1 - Popiah goreng and claypot chicken rice
Day 2 - Roti jala and kari daging
Day 3 - Nasi lemak and ayam goreng rempah - Miss A came back for the weekend.
Day 4 - Soto ayam and puding jagung (since its weekend and mama came over for iftar)
Day 5 - Nasi tomato with ayam masak merah - for Miss A to bring back
Day 6 - Bubur lambuk and some food from Pasar Ramadhan for Miss M. Encik ID had iftar at his office
Day 7 - Mee goreng basah
Day 8 - Lontong with rendang daging
Day 9 - Mee rebus - tried a new recipe and its not that nice :-( and tahu sumbat udang
and today... tak tahu lagi apa nak masak.
I think not bad for a working mum..!
Till then... Selamat beribadah dibulan yang penuh berkat ini.
Thursday, 20 June 2013
I'm back!!!!!
It has been almost a year away from this blog....!!!! Memang jenis malas tapi nak ada blog, ini lah jadinya!!!
So, what had happen for the last 11 months?
Nothing unusual. My busy working life. More and more travelling. For the last 11 months, I've been to London, Boston, Bangkok (several times), Bali, Bandung, Jakarta, Vietnam, Cambodia, Myammar (my first time!!!!), Chicago, Dubai ( just a transit though) and most recently Bad Homburg, Germany. And all was work related. And to top it up, the local traveling, Kota Bharu (nice place... must go there again) and Johor Baharu.
And our biweekly trip to Alor Gajah to visit my darling Ms A.
I have changed job!!!!!
A decision that I made dengan hati yang lapang.
I love my previous job but the stress and the travelling is eating me up. I need more time for my family and myself.
And here I am at the new company for over a month now.
How do I feel? Never felt this relief for quite a while. Terasa ringan kepala dan lapang dada. I believe I've made the right decision. Alhamdulillah.
Boleh la update blog more often kot.....
So, what had happen for the last 11 months?
Nothing unusual. My busy working life. More and more travelling. For the last 11 months, I've been to London, Boston, Bangkok (several times), Bali, Bandung, Jakarta, Vietnam, Cambodia, Myammar (my first time!!!!), Chicago, Dubai ( just a transit though) and most recently Bad Homburg, Germany. And all was work related. And to top it up, the local traveling, Kota Bharu (nice place... must go there again) and Johor Baharu.
And our biweekly trip to Alor Gajah to visit my darling Ms A.
I have changed job!!!!!
A decision that I made dengan hati yang lapang.
I love my previous job but the stress and the travelling is eating me up. I need more time for my family and myself.
And here I am at the new company for over a month now.
How do I feel? Never felt this relief for quite a while. Terasa ringan kepala dan lapang dada. I believe I've made the right decision. Alhamdulillah.
Boleh la update blog more often kot.....
Sunday, 15 July 2012
Its been a while
Wow, its been a while that I last wrote in this blog. Been busy with work lately. Kerja banyak and kena travel back to back for almost 3 weeks.
While I was away, two of my friends diberi dugaan oleh Allah. D's husband had a heart attack and had to undergo angioplasty. My dear friend which I fondly call Mate's dad had a stroke. I wished I was there to hug them in their time of need tapi bila berjauhan, hanya doa yang dapat dipanjatkan. Semoga Allah melindungi mereka sentiasa. To D and Mate, be strong and take care
This weekend free sikit. So time to entertain my loved ones, do a bit of spring cleaning of the house and some grocery shopping in preparation of ramadhan.
Till then. Salam Ramadhan
While I was away, two of my friends diberi dugaan oleh Allah. D's husband had a heart attack and had to undergo angioplasty. My dear friend which I fondly call Mate's dad had a stroke. I wished I was there to hug them in their time of need tapi bila berjauhan, hanya doa yang dapat dipanjatkan. Semoga Allah melindungi mereka sentiasa. To D and Mate, be strong and take care
This weekend free sikit. So time to entertain my loved ones, do a bit of spring cleaning of the house and some grocery shopping in preparation of ramadhan.
Till then. Salam Ramadhan
Monday, 16 April 2012
Drama
2.20pm: Bibik called "ibu... adik belum sampai dari sekolah"
2.21pm: Called Mak cik van. Mak cik van had to check with her driver
2.25pm: Mak cik van called and said Ms M's friend said Ms M has to stay back at school.
2.26pm: Asked bibik to run to school and check on Ms M
2.40pm: Called bibik and bibik said Ms M was not at school
2.41pm: Called Mak cik van and asked to help look for Ms M. Called En. ID and asked him to go home first as he's nearer.
2.50pm: Called Mak cik van and she said the teachers were looking for Ms M and has made an announcement at the school
3.00pm: No news of Ms M whereabout
3.05pm: Excused myself from the meeting and drove like mad from Putrajaya.
3.10pm: No news of Ms M. Bibik and mak cik van went to all her friends house looking for her
3.15pm: Still no news. I was hyterical already. Called atok and nenek.
3.25pm: Mak cik van called and said Ms M has followed her teacher for bowling training.
3.40pm: Arrived at the bowling centre and saw Ms M smiling at me and En. ID.
WHAT A RELIEF!!!!!!!!
I have felt how mothers yang kehilangan anak rasa. Separuh nyawa hilang!!!!!
Still traumatized by the experience.
2.21pm: Called Mak cik van. Mak cik van had to check with her driver
2.25pm: Mak cik van called and said Ms M's friend said Ms M has to stay back at school.
2.26pm: Asked bibik to run to school and check on Ms M
2.40pm: Called bibik and bibik said Ms M was not at school
2.41pm: Called Mak cik van and asked to help look for Ms M. Called En. ID and asked him to go home first as he's nearer.
2.50pm: Called Mak cik van and she said the teachers were looking for Ms M and has made an announcement at the school
3.00pm: No news of Ms M whereabout
3.05pm: Excused myself from the meeting and drove like mad from Putrajaya.
3.10pm: No news of Ms M. Bibik and mak cik van went to all her friends house looking for her
3.15pm: Still no news. I was hyterical already. Called atok and nenek.
3.25pm: Mak cik van called and said Ms M has followed her teacher for bowling training.
3.40pm: Arrived at the bowling centre and saw Ms M smiling at me and En. ID.
WHAT A RELIEF!!!!!!!!
I have felt how mothers yang kehilangan anak rasa. Separuh nyawa hilang!!!!!
Still traumatized by the experience.
Tuesday, 10 April 2012
Bibik nak balik!!!!!!
Last 2 week bibik bagi tau dia nak balik. She has been with us for one year only. Her reason is... anak dia selalu sakit, so she need to balik. Although, I can say she has 2 year contract with us therefore, dia tak boleh balik but I feel that we just cannot force someone to work for us bila hati dia tak nak kerja. And surprisingly, I felt ok about it.
Maka, bermula la episod planning for life without bibik. Our main concern would be Ms M. Mana dia nak duduk ni????? She never stay in a daycare more than a week and we know she will not be happy there. She is in the morning session this year so we need to send her somewhere in the afternoon.
The first option is for her to stay with nenek, my mum who stays 25km away. Tapi siapa nak ambik dia dari sekolah? I asked my father to ask around if ada orang yang boleh fetch her from school everyday. Sort of like a driver for her. Tapi Atok nya volunteer nak gi ambik pulak. Rasa tak sampai hati la pulak nak biarkan abah pergi ambil dia everyday. So, we KIV that option until we can find other driver to fetch her.
Second option.... is to find a babysitter for her. Tapi nak cari orang yang tak jaga ramai budak. Banyak la pulak syarat mummynya ni....
We tried asking my sister in law's babysitter who has been taking care of my niece for a few years but she has to decline the request as she has just gave birth and she felt its difficult to cope with additional kid. While asking around, alhamdulillah... mak cik van Ms M offers herself to babysit Ms M.
But today, another blessing from Allah. My cleaner at the office came to see me and said she has a relative who is looking for job. The relative has just arrived from Indonesia. So, we are going to meet up with her next week and if we feel comfortable with her, we will start the application for working permit etc.
I believe things happen for a reason. Thank you Allah atas segala kemudahan yang diberi.
Maka, bermula la episod planning for life without bibik. Our main concern would be Ms M. Mana dia nak duduk ni????? She never stay in a daycare more than a week and we know she will not be happy there. She is in the morning session this year so we need to send her somewhere in the afternoon.
The first option is for her to stay with nenek, my mum who stays 25km away. Tapi siapa nak ambik dia dari sekolah? I asked my father to ask around if ada orang yang boleh fetch her from school everyday. Sort of like a driver for her. Tapi Atok nya volunteer nak gi ambik pulak. Rasa tak sampai hati la pulak nak biarkan abah pergi ambil dia everyday. So, we KIV that option until we can find other driver to fetch her.
Second option.... is to find a babysitter for her. Tapi nak cari orang yang tak jaga ramai budak. Banyak la pulak syarat mummynya ni....
We tried asking my sister in law's babysitter who has been taking care of my niece for a few years but she has to decline the request as she has just gave birth and she felt its difficult to cope with additional kid. While asking around, alhamdulillah... mak cik van Ms M offers herself to babysit Ms M.
But today, another blessing from Allah. My cleaner at the office came to see me and said she has a relative who is looking for job. The relative has just arrived from Indonesia. So, we are going to meet up with her next week and if we feel comfortable with her, we will start the application for working permit etc.
I believe things happen for a reason. Thank you Allah atas segala kemudahan yang diberi.
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